Let’s be real for a minute. When you’ve been married for a while, the texts you exchange with your husband can start to look a lot like a… grocery list.�
“Hey, can you pick up milk?” “Don’t forget soccer practice is at 6.” “Did you pay the electric bill?”
It’s the language of a partnership, of running a household and raising a family.
And while that’s a beautiful thing, David and I hit a point a few years back where it felt like that was the only language we were speaking.
The playful, flirty banter that used to be our default had gotten buried under piles of laundry and life.
We had to intentionally bring it back. And you know what?
It felt a little awkward at first. But sending a little text in the middle of the day that was just for us something a little suggestive, a little funny, a little… unexpected was a total game-changer.
It’s not about being scandalous; it’s about connection. It’s a private joke, a spark of anticipation, a reminder that you’re not just partners, you’re lovers.
So, if you’re ready to trade the grocery list for something a little more exciting, here are a few ideas to get you started.
Consider this your permission slip to have a little fun and focus on Rekindling the Romance.
Category 1: The Midday “I’m Thinking of You” Tease
These are perfect for a random Tuesday when he’s drowning in spreadsheets.
It’s not a full-on proposition, just a sweet and flirty little spark to let him know he’s on your mind in a very specific way.
- My to-do list today: 1. You.
- I’ve been having some naughty thoughts today. They all seem to involve you.
- Just saw something that reminded me of you and now I can’t focus.
- I have a mind that is 95% dirty thoughts and 5%… wait, what was I saying?
- Counting down the hours until I can see you. I have plans for us.
- You must be exhausted from running through my mind all day.
- I hope you’re having a good day. I’m having a few dirty thoughts about you, so I definitely am.
Category 2: The “Can’t Wait for Tonight” Promise
This is all about building anticipation. It turns a regular evening into an event you’re both looking forward to.
A simple text like this can shift the entire energy of your day and make him walk through the door with a completely different mindset.
These are some of our favorite Texts to Drive Him Wild.
- Let’s just stay in tonight. I have a much better idea of what we can do.
- Hurry home. I’m wearing that thing you like (and not much else).
- I can’t wait to be in your arms later. And maybe a few other places, too.
- Tonight, my only agenda is you.
- Don’t make any plans for after the kids are in bed. I’ve already made them for you.
- I’ve got a bottle of wine and a very dirty mind waiting for you at home.
- How about we skip dinner and go straight for dessert?
- I was going to make you a delicious dinner, but then I thought… I’d rather be the snack.
The Art of the Delivery: It’s Not Just What You Say
Okay, so you’ve picked a quote. Now what?
The delivery is everything. Remember, the goal here is connection and fun, not pressure.
- Timing is Key: Don’t send a super racy text when you know he’s walking into a board meeting or coaching little league. Send it during his lunch break or on his commute home when he has a moment to actually read it, smile, and respond.
- Emoji Power: A well-placed winky face 😉, smirk 😏, or devil emoji 😈 can totally change the tone from demanding to playful. They do a lot of the heavy lifting for you!
- Keep It Light: This is meant to be a fun, no-pressure invitation. If he’s swamped and just replies “❤️”, take it as a win! You still made him smile and planted a seed for later. This is key Relationship Advice for Women don’t overthink the response.
Category 3: The Funny & Flirty Icebreaker
Sometimes the direct approach feels like too much, especially if it’s been a while.
Laughter is one of the most powerful tools for intimacy.
A text that makes him laugh and blush at the same time is a total win-win.
- Are you a magician? Because whenever I look at you, everyone else disappears… and my clothes do, too.
- I love you with all my butt. I would say my heart, but my butt is bigger.
- Let’s cuddle so I can steal your body heat. And maybe your clothes.
- Forget butterflies. I feel the whole zoo when I’m with you.
- I’m not saying I’m a mind reader, but I’m pretty sure I know what you’re thinking right now. Get your mind out of the gutter… and into my bedroom.
- On a scale of 1 to America, how free are you tonight?
Category 4: The “A Little More Direct” Heat
Alright, for the days you’re feeling bold and you know he’ll be receptive.
These leave a little less to the imagination and make your intentions crystal clear.
They are a powerful tool for Improving Intimacy in Marriage when you both are in the right headspace.
- My bed is way too big for just one person. Get home now.
- I can think of at least five things I’d rather be doing with you right now, and none of them involve talking.
- The only thing I want to do tonight is you.
- That thing we did last night? I want to do it again. And again.
- I have a craving, and only you can satisfy it.
- All I can think about is your hands all over me.
- I have a surprise for you later, and you’re going to love it. Hint: It’s me.
- I had a dream about you last night, and I’m blushing just thinking about it.
- Stop being so damn sexy all the time. Actually, don’t.
What If It Feels Awkward at First?
Friend, let me tell you. The first time I sent David a text that was more than just a question about dinner, my thumb hovered over the “send” button for a solid minute. I felt… silly. Exposed. What if he thinks this is weird?
He didn’t. His response was almost immediate and let’s just say it made me smile for the rest of the afternoon.
Pushing past that initial moment of vulnerability is where the magic happens.
Your husband fell in love with you the fun, flirty, sexy you.
She’s still in there, I promise. Sometimes she just needs a little encouragement to come out and play.
Start small, find one that feels authentic to you, and just go for it.
Wrapping It Up: It’s All About the Connection
At the end of the day, these flirty quotes aren’t just words on a screen.
They are tiny bridges back to each other.
They’re a secret language in the middle of a busy world, a reminder of the passion and playfulness that form the bedrock of a strong, joyful marriage.
God designed intimacy to be a beautiful, fun, and sacred part of the marital bond.
And sometimes, nurturing that bond looks a lot like sending a text that makes your husband blush in the middle of his workday.
It’s a small investment that can pay off in huge ways, strengthening your connection and reminding you both of the spark that started it all.
So go ahead, be brave. Pick one that makes you smile, and press send.
You’re not just sending a text; you’re sending a message that says, “I see you, I want you, and you’re still the one.” You’ve got this.